Image: Macaulay Culkin, Home Alone, 1990
As the festive season approaches, our hearts are often filled with anticipation. We picture warm gatherings with old friends and the joys of reuniting with distant family. However, amongst the jolly messaging from television commercials and hallmark movies, it's necessary to acknowledge that not everyone experiences Christmas holidays the same way.
According to a study conducted by the Office for National Statistics, loneliness tends to spike during the Christmas period. With a 20% increase in reported feelings of isolation compared to other times of the year. This rise in loneliness emphasises the importance of fostering a sense of togetherness. Not only within our immediate circles, but also in reaching out to those who may be seeking connection.
Defying Expectations:
It's common to be influenced by the societal expectations that surround us, leading to a sense of overwhelm from the pressure to align with a flawless, picture-perfect Christmas. However, the reality is that the holiday season should be centered around discovering joy within meaningful relationships, regardless of conforming to conventional norms.
Our intention is not to advocate for loneliness but to offer a gentle reminder to those who may feel obligated to spend time with distant relatives. Like, visiting Peter and Polly (*purely fictional characters) hundreds of miles away, who hold little connection throughout the rest of the year.
Instead of succumbing to this pressure, consider investing your precious time in creating moments that authentically bring happiness and fulfillment.
Christmas Branch:
Alternatively, if you are feeling lonely, chances are someone else you know might be too. A little empathy may be the gift someone was hoping for. If there’s a relationship out there who was once was your rock, or once held a spot in your heart, then now is a great time to reach out your Christmas branch.
Lay to bed any negative emotions that may have been surfacing. Rekindle that special feeling you once had. If may work out, it may not, but the result will be reassuring either way.
A weight lifted with current connections can be just a mighty as making new connections.
Time for Togetherness:
Sometimes the most meaningful connections are forged by stepping outside our comfort zones. Consider reaching out to local community centers, churches and charities. If time permits, perhaps host an inclusive event? Provide an opportunity to share a slice of joy with those who may not have a traditional support system. By participating in such events, you not only create lasting memories for yourself but also contribute to the well-being of others.
For those yearning for connection during the festive season, several charities actively work towards spreading love and togetherness. Embrace the spirit of giving and consider contributing your time. Age UK (www.ageuk.org.uk) invites you to hang out elderly individuals who may be facing loneliness. This is guaranteed to be rewarding for both in the room.
Another remarkable initiative is Crisis (www.crisis.org.uk), who provide support to homeless individuals. Which is particularly poignant during these cold winter months.
Your People:
The streets are crowded and the pubs are heaving, yet you may feel like you don’t belong? Your ‘people’ simply aren’t out celebrating because you don’t know who they are. Let’s use this seasonal break to find-and-seek new potential friends.
Sites like Meetup (www.meetup.com) allow you to discover groups based on the interests you love most in the world. Whether it's a book club, hiking group, or language exchange, there are numerous options for meeting people who share your hobbies. With a brand new year round the corner, this is an opportunity to start it on top.
Self-Care-Cheer:
While the emphasis is often on external connections, don't forget the importance of self-care during the holidays. Whether you spend Christmas with a large group or enjoy a quiet day alone, make choices that align with your true desires. Cherish this time for positive self-reflection - we know it’s easier said than done, sometimes - but Christmas can be spent selfishly when you’re the someone in need of a little self-cheer.
For joy to be spend, you must first feel joy yourself.
As we navigate Santa’s season, let's collectively redefine the meaning of Christmas. Highlighting togetherness beyond societal expectations. Loneliness may be on the rise, but by reaching out, we are reminded that powerful connections are one Christmas branch away.
Embracing mindful celebrations and prioritising genuine relations, can make a positive impact on our own lives and the lives of others. Remember, the true spirit of Christmas lies in the warmth of our hearts and the sweetness in our kindness.
Merry Christmas.
